Wedding Planning 101 – The Very Basics

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Some brides are very informed about the wedding market and have been to many weddings in recent years. Other brides may have been to only one or two weddings and are not familiar with some of the basic elements of planning and the wedding day. For those brides who haven’t been to many weddings, here are a few very basic planning details to help you plan your Colorado wedding.

Save the Date Cards – These informal announcements precede the wedding invitations by 4-12 months. They let your guests know when and where your wedding is so they can “Save the Date” for it. You still send out your formal wedding invitations 6-8 weeks prior to your wedding in addition to save the date cards.

First Step in the Process – Before you start meeting with photographers or florists, find and book your ceremony and reception venues. The first question other vendors will ask you is the date and location of your wedding.

Wedding Registries – The proper etiquette is for your registry information to be communicated by word of mouth, on your bridal shower invitations and on your wedding website. It is not proper to include any registry information with your wedding invitations or save the dates.

Escort Cards & Place Cards – Escort cards (or seating cards) let your guests know where they are sitting. Your guests will choose their card from the table or other creative display, and it escorts them to their seat. Place cards are actually at each person’s place at the table and denotes to them exactly where a guest is sitting at their previously assigned table. Seating cards can be used without place cards if you choose to assign the table and not the actual seat, but place cards usually cannot be used without seating cards

Debbie Orwat
Colorado Wedding Planner

Tips for Your First Year of Marriage

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Is the first year of marriage the hardest? Here are some tips to get you through the rough patches.

DEFINING ROLES – Prior to marriage, couples often assume that the other will take on certain roles in the relationship (i.e. breadwinner, bill payer, housecleaner, nurse, mechanic, etc.). But most of the time, newlyweds are over idealistic and neglect to discuss these expectations.

Solution: Sit down to review and negotiate household roles. Focus first on how you can help, not on how your partner is letting you down!

MONEY MATTERS – Money is a very sensitive topic and a couple’s attitudes towards household finances need to be aligned. If families don’t define their core values, money ends up being spent carelessly and irresponsibly. More often than not, couples resort to blaming each other for financial mishaps because they aren’t on the same page when it comes to handling money.

Solution: Define your values. What do you both care about spending money on the most (i.e. vacations, entertainment, spirituality, etc.)? Once you lay that out on the table, you can better know how to budget your money.

IN-LAWS - Getting married means redefining boundaries and being a life partner with someone new involves cutting the umbilical cord. Parents often have a more difficult time with this than the children they are marrying off, and want to stay connected in ways that can disrupt the marriage.

Solution: You and your partner need to decide among yourselves how much parental input you want and need to maintain respect and then you need set boundaries with your parents. Each child is responsible for communicating the message to their own family

RECREATION TIME – While dating, it was okay to watch football all day Sunday and shopping trips were a delightful way to spend the day together. But after couples bond for life, the way they spend time together can be a source of conflict.

Solution: Building a relationship together requires you to respect the fact that your partner has individual needs. Focus on appreciating the things that he or she loves as a way to help define your partner’s uniqueness. Agree that if one (or the other) is stuck doing an “unenjoyable” activity that the focus will be on spending time together, not on the activity itself. Each partner should have his or her own share of fun time.

This article is compliments of the She Knows Love website.

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